With many counseling goals, a discussion of what you believe will need to be addressed at some point. Many believe in God, a Higher Power, or karma. Even if someone identifies as an atheist, there are things they believe to be true about life and how the world works. Most folks have faith the sun…
Like a moth drawn to a flame . . . Have you ever repeatedly made choices you regretted—like dating the same type of person again and again with the same problematic results—but you weren’t sure why? Or maybe you have repeatedly re-experienced the same life dilemma—like often feeling rejected or feeling like you can never…
To understand how not to kill the mood, let’s first consider the more effective ways to kill it as witnessed through the lens of marriage counseling. Being demanding—a spouse who is sullen and/or grouchy pressuring the other to have sex more often is probably the fastest and most effective way to kill the mood for…
This is a word of encouragement to those individuals who struggle with especially difficult traumatic memories from the past. For anyone who has lived through an especially difficult or even life-threatening situation, it’s bad enough to have had to endure it the first time. The problem with these especially difficult and/or traumatic memories is…
This dynamic is frequently seen with couples in marriage counseling. It is a serious threat to the longevity of the marriage. At the same time, it’s relatively quick and easy to remedy in counseling. The wife shows up in my office frustrated and upset because she feels overwhelmed. She feels like her husband…